12. The Manual and Premeditated Resentment

Whether we know it or not, we all have thoughts on how other people should show up in our lives, how they should act, how they should talk even what they should say, in order for us to NOT be triggered, frustrated, irritated…mad. We have thoughts on how husbands and friends should be so that we feel loved, appreciated and respected. We even have thoughts on bosses and co-workers too. Believing someone should be different than they are can feel like we’re looking out for them, just wanting them to be what we deem to be their best selves, but what you aren’t seeing is the pain you are inflicting on yourself in the process. He should answer my email faster, she should be more professional, he should be more responsive, he should recognize my efforts, she shouldn’t be so loud and he is just plain unprofessional. These kind of thoughts, are what I call a manual and these kind of thoughts are one of the most destructive thoughts we can bring into a relationship, any relationship. Having a manual for someone is "Premeditated Resentment." Follow me here on INSTAGRAM Follow me here on FACEBOOK  If you are ready to go deeper in your own work, check out Life By Design Academy. You can get to know me better at:  janetcaglecoaching.com To learn how you can win a $100's click here.